Why men cheat Their Wives

December 8, 2008

Your sudden weight gain or husband’s dissatisfaction in bed is not what prompts him to cheat, says best-selling author and marriage counsellor, who in his new book has unravelled what makes men stray.

For his new book, ‘Why Men Stray And What You Can Do To Prevent It’, M Gary Neuman spent two years studying 100 men who had affairs and 100 men who were faithful.

And he found that men cheat not because the other woman is prettier and slimmer, but because they aren’t emotionally satisfied with their wives or girlfriends.

“Only eight per cent of the cheating men said it was sexual dissatisfaction at home and 88 per cent said the mistress was not better-looking or in better shape than their wife,” Metro.co.uk quoted Neuman as saying.

He added: “The number one reason behind their cheating was the emotional dissatisfaction they felt in their marriage and the emotional connection they unfortunately developed in the affair.”

In fact, he found that around 69 per cent men had initially thought they would never cheat and were actually surprised at their own insecurity.

“They didn’t think they’d fall into an illicit relationship because they were in need of some appreciation and admiration,” explained Neuman.

But it doesn’t mean that the blame lies with the woman, said Neuman, as many women are interested in learning what they could have done to prevent their partner’s adultery.

“It tells women that emotional connection at home is by far the most important way to develop a happy marriage and reduce the risk of cheating,” he said.

According to Neuman, the signs of adultery are:

1.He spends more time away from home.

2.You have sex infrequently.

3.He avoids contact with you.

4.He criticises you more often.

5.He starts fights with you.

6.He may start talking about other women.

7.Neuman’s action plan


Nice Love Quotes

November 11, 2008

1. “A kiss is a lovely trick, designed by nature, to stop words when speech becomes superfluous.”
–Ingrid Bergmen

2. Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
– Captain Corelli’s Mandolin6. “Love is the beauty of the soul.”

3. “My night has become a sunny dawn because of you.”

4. “In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person.”

5. “In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.”

7. “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”

8. “Each moment of a happy lover’s hour is worth an age of dull and common life.”

9. “Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me.”

10. “In my wildest dreams, you always play the hero. In my darkest hour of night, you rescue me, you save my life.”

11. “Come live with me and be my love, and we will some new pleasures prove, of golden sands, and crystal beaches, with silken lines and silver hooks…”

12. “What I do and what I dream include thee, as the wine must taste of its own grapes…”

13. “I love thee to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach…”

14. “Take away love, and our earth is a tomb.”
–Robert Browning
15. “But to see her was to love her, love but her, and love her forever.”

16. “She walks in Beauty, like the night
Of cloudness climes and starry skies,
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes…”

17. “Like music on the waters is they sweet voice to me.”

18. “I love you, not only for what you are, But for what I am when I am with you.”

19. “You’re nothing short of my everything.”

20. “The only true gift is a portion of yourself.”

21. “Thou art to me a delicious torment.”

22. “Love distills desire upon the eyes, love brings bewitching grace into the heart.”

23. “I love her and that’s the beginning of everything.”

24. “I wished for nothing beyond her smile, and to walk with her thus, hand in hand, along a sun-warmed, flower-bordered path.”

25. “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”